Tuesday, November 2, 2010
Finally my grand mother's funeral is over. Felt quite happy that my paternal aunty and uncle came and I am happy that Aaron, Aaron's parent, Hui Zhong, Hui Zhong's parent, Phileo, Jie Sheng, Fish, Eunice, spencer and Daryl came all the way to pay their respect to my grandmother.
Think the whole family became even more united after this event. No quarreling/ disagreement or sort have happen. Everyone remain cheerful till the last day. Everyone did their very part to make it a some how grand funeral which my grandmother wanted. Even most of my grandmother relative (my super distance relative) came despite their busy schedule.
The final farewell definitely the most emotional moment. Almost everyone burst into tears, especially the band we invite start playing the songs which my grandmother loves. The nursery rhymes 世上只有媽媽好 was the tear flowing moment. Just hope my grandmother will enjoy the "gifts" which her son-in-laws had given to her. I realize that getting a band over at the funeral is somehow an expensive event. Luckily the one my dad and uncle got was alright as they even went to the crematorium with us and played the very last tune for my grandmother when her coffin entered the furnace.
No matter what, we still manage to had some fun moment during this 5 days. The monk was doing the prayer on the last night when we were suppose to follow the monk. After going a few rounds, the monk continue chanting and started going round the coffin. He didn't realize that we didn't follow him as he didn't made any hand signal. Half way he ask us to follow, we had no choice but start rushing. Another moment was when we were suppose to burn the paper house/joss paper. My uncle almost threw the joss paper in to the pit without lighting it. The monk who was chanting started laughing! Kind of humorous. Even when burning the paper house/joss paper, we were suppose to hit the floor with the stick and shout for our grandmother name and ask her to come and collect, 1 of my cousin started shouting and shouting and after that she started shouting my grandfather name instead. It was like the joke of the night.
Apart from an expensive event, its also a tiring event. I am so shag that I start hearing words like "what the fuck" "money money more" .etc when the monks are chanting. HAHA...
Anyway when to collect her ash today from the crematorium before we move her to her new home in the temple. First time seeing people's bone. Felt even weird. What was best was having a very sumptuous brunch at 1 of the coffee shop which we ordered more then 10 over bowls of Ba Kut Teh, 2 plates of duck, 2 plate of braise pork and 2 big bowl of soup! Well, treat it as the farewell meal for the maid who was the one looking after my grandmother. She will be leaving us for another family. After the meal, we went to our grandmother house to pack before everyone of us went to the agency to send her off. Quite emotional as she is a good maid. Quite meticulous and does her duties well. I think we never regret employing her. As no one want to have a maid or requires a maid, we didn't really renew her contract with us. She will be going to another family in Singapore soon. Hope she will have a good employer.
it's you and me <3
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